To be yourself is the very first & most important advice you would love to follow. You might have heard it before, that the single most important piece of advice you can follow when going on a date is "to be yourself".
What does "Being Yourself" mean? It means not putting on any behavior which isn't you. It means not pretending to be something you are not. And let's be clear, it certainly means don't try to show what is not part of your personality.
If you want to form a good lasting relationship with someone, then you are not going to make a start by telling them things about yourself which aren't true. Tell them your real part and also tell them how you are improving it. Most people when they hear something untrue or realize it later, at least ask themselves: 'Is this person being completely honest?' Others will see the untruth, for what it is, right away. Either way you would have created a bad impression. Remember "First Impression is the last impression".
Honesty is the key to forming lasting relationships. And this has to begin right from the word GO.
You are ready to meet somebody online, that is ready for Online Dating! That means you are not seeing anybody but only talking. Make it an interesting and safe experience.
Use email and the telephone to ask open ended questions and get the other person to share information about himself/herself. In other words, after asking "What kind of work do you do"?, ask "Why do you like that kind of work? What led you into that field?"
Gently interview the other person. Explain to him/her that you don't wish to "pry" into their life, but you feel there are definite possibilities for getting acquainted and you want to be very thorough in this preliminary stage.
Do not promise a date or a meeting until you have had at least five fifteen minute or longer conversations by phone in advance of suggesting a personal meeting.
Do not rely only on email or written letters to get acquainted. Use ALL mediums possible. This will give the persona a better idea about your personality, it will bring up different aspects which may not be seen through just one way.
Be "businesslike". Don't arrange a first "date" -- arrange a "meeting", lunch or coffee break with a defined ending time. It should be casual.
When you arrange to meet the other person, leave a trail. Tell a trusted friend or relative who you are meeting, where and what time you're expected back.
Meet in a well lighted, public place which each of you can get to easily.
If all goes well, your spectacular Personal profile and carefully crafted emails will eventually lead to a first date in the real world. Although you may feel as though you already know each other, you have yet to become familiar with each other's physical presence, and that can take some getting used to. A first face-to-face encounter can be awkward or even shocking, regardless of the positive feelings you already have for each other.
You will make your best real-world first impression by being calmly and confidentially yourself. Try to enjoy the nervous energy you are feeling. Have fun. Remember to smile. People are perceived as more attractive when they are having a good time. Your date will form an immediate first (physical) impression of you, usually in under ten seconds, based on some combination of these attributes:
- posture
- walk
- body language
- attire
- physical characteristics
- smile/facial features
- handshake
- grooming
- scent/perfume
- eye contact
- perceived confidence
- perceived comfort
- ableness
So whenever you're ready to see your date in person for the first time, make sure you're aware of these traits and also be aware of using these as to make a positive impression. You never know if this will develop into a long-lasting relationship.
